Ever wonder how to be a better husband when your job keeps you so busy?
Here is an open letter from a wife full of heartfelt tips on how you can be a better husband, even when work takes up most of your time.
Dear Husband,
I see how hard you work, balancing a demanding job while trying to be the loving and supportive partner I know you are. The weight of your responsibilities can often steal your time and energy, making it challenging to focus on us. I understand the busyness and your desire to provide financial security for our family, but I also believe in the magic of nurturing our love. Our marriage is worth every bit of effort, and even the smallest gestures can make a world of difference. Here are some heartfelt tips that I hope will help you be an even better husband, even when work keeps you on your toes.
1. STAY CONNECTED: Brighten my day with a quick text or call.
Even if you’re overwhelmed with work, please know that keeping me updated about your schedule and any changes helps me understand and support you better. Yes, make an effort to check in regularly, even if it’s brief. Share a little about your day and ask about mine, a quick text or call to let me know you’re thinking of me can mean the world. It’s comforting to know that, despite your busy schedule, I’m on your mind.
Trust me, when you send me an unexpected message asking if everything is fine, it makes me feel cared for. It reassures me that I have someone reliable in my life. Your regular expressions of love and appreciation, like saying “I love you”, “I miss you” or “I appreciate you,” along with physical affection such as hugs, kisses, and holding hands, help maintain our intimacy. I hope to have many more of these, honestly.
2. CHERISH QUALITY TIME: Make every moment together count.
Please know that I accepted the fact that it’s not about how much time we have, but how we spend it. I understand that your time is limited, but the moments we spend together mean the world to me. Let’s make them count by being fully present for each other.
When we’re together, can you please put away distractions like your phone or laptop and focus on us? Your undivided attention makes me feel so valued and understood.
I must admit, I love it when you actively listen and engage in our conversations. It reassures me that our connection is strong and that you genuinely care about what I’m saying. Discussing our long-term goals and dreams shows me that you’re thinking about our future together. Even if plans don’t always materialize, talking about vacations or future projects fills me with hope and excitement.
Of course! I cherish every moment of quality time you spend with me and the kids. Those precious times, like going to church together or dedicating a day just to family activities, are priceless. Your presence during these moments reassures me that our family is your priority. It fills my heart with immense joy and gratitude to see you actively involved in our lives.
3. SHOW GRATITUDE: A heartfelt thank you or surprise hug works wonders.
I see and appreciate everything you do for our family, and I want you to feel the same. When you acknowledge my efforts around the house or with the family, it makes me feel valued and respected.
Would it be too much if I asked you to leave little notes, surprise me with flowers, or simply say “thank you.”? These thoughtful gestures show how much you care and can make a big difference in our relationship.
When you take the time to help out at home despite your busy schedule, it makes me feel like we’re truly a team. I love how your thoughtful actions touch my heart.
4. BE EMOTIONALLY PRESENT: Listen, empathize, and make me feel understood.
Sometimes, I just need you to listen and understand, not necessarily solve problems. Your emotional presence and support make me feel truly connected and understood
Please practice truly listening and showing empathy when I open up. Set aside distractions, look into my eyes, and really hear me. Let’s create a safe space where we can open up without fear of judgment or criticism.
When I’m feeling sad and lonely, and I believe I’m hard to love, please hold my hand, hug me tightly, and love me even more. Sometimes, just having you by my side is enough to heal my heart.
And when we argue and fight, please don’t walk away. Stay with me and reassure me that your love is stronger than any disagreement we might have.
5. PRIORITIZE WELLNESS: Let’s stay healthy and happy together.
Prioritizing our well-being, both as individuals and as a couple, keeps us connected and healthy. When we focus on self-care, we ensure we’re both at our best, which greatly benefits our relationship.
Let’s engage in activities that promote our well-being, like exercising together, cooking healthy meals, or practicing mindfulness. Let’s schedule joint activities like a running race, a hike, or even a couple’s massage. These shared experiences enhance both our physical and emotional health, deepening our connection.
One more, I love it when you show interest in my hobbies and passions. Even when you’re busy, your support means everything to me. Attending my events, being enthusiastic about it, and encouraging my interests bring us closer together. I love you more for doing so.
6. BALANCE WORK AND LIFE: Set boundaries and make special time for us.
I understand that work can be demanding, but I hope you’ll also prioritize us. Sometimes, this means saying no to extra work commitments to make time for us. If work becomes overwhelming, please delegate tasks to free up time for date nights or weekend plans.
Balancing work with our personal life ensures we stay close. I hope you can evaluate your work commitments and find ways to achieve a better balance. Set boundaries for work hours so we have time for each other. Small changes can make a big difference
7. PURSUE GROWTH: Inspire each other to dream big and grow
Your continuous self-improvement truly shows your deep commitment to being the best for both of us. While our time together builds beautiful memories and strengthens the foundation of our love, I understand that your “ME TIME” is vital as well. It gives you the necessary space to nurture your mental, psychological, physical, and emotional well-being. Knowing that you are taking care of yourself fills me with immense love and appreciation, as it shows how much you value our future together. Your dedication to becoming the best version of yourself inspires me every day and reassures me that our love is worth every effort.
I encourage you to continue engaging in activities that foster personal growth, like reading, taking courses, or pursuing hobbies. A better you contribute to a better us. May we encourage each other to pursue interests and support each other’s growth.
8. STAY FAITHFUL: Make me feel secure and loved, always
I’m not even sure if I should mention this, because it’s something fundamental and shouldn’t need reminding. Given how busy you are with work and the limited time we have together, I trust you understand that anything else, especially something that could hurt our bond, isn’t an option.
Please know that your faithfulness is a promise I hold dear. It makes me feel safe, cherished and loved. By staying faithful in both actions and thoughts, we create a resilient and enduring relationship. Prioritizing us above all else shows your commitment. Your faithfulness isn’t just a promise; it’s the foundation of our love and trust, reassuring me daily that we are united and committed, strengthening my love for you and giving me immense peace.
9. BE A GOOD PROVIDER: Support us not just financially, but in every way possible
You work so hard to support us financially, and I see the dedication and effort you put into your job. I am incredibly grateful for all you do to ensure we have what we need.
Yes, your hard work ensures that we have a comfortable and secure life. It’s not just about paying the bills but also about planning for our future, saving for our dreams, and being prepared for any unexpected challenges. Your financial responsibility gives us peace of mind and allows us to pursue our passions without constant worry.
I hope all these 9 tips sound good to you. These tips can help you be a better husband, even when work is demanding.
I love you and appreciate all that you do for us. Let’s make the most of our time together and continue to prioritize our relationship, no matter how busy life gets.
With all my love,
Your Wife
SUGGESTED BOOKS TO READ:
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman
Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
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